As the coronavirus pandemic sweeps the nation, we have all been forced into unchartered territory. COVID-19 has caused widespread panic and anxiety over the health and safety of ourselves and our loved ones. With salary cuts and layoffs, along with the daily fluctuation in the stock market, everyone is understandably experiencing high levels of stress – emotional and financial, with no timetable for when this will all be behind us.
While these valid concerns cannot be minimized as we continue to adjust to our new way of life, it is also important to look on the bright side of this new global reality and find that bright spot in the time we spend inside and in quarantine.
Being forced to remain inside allows us to slow down and finally get to those lingering projects we never had time for. You can clean out the pantry, tap into the artistic side you may have always wanted to explore, get into an exercise routine, start a new book, develop a love for cooking and even adopt a dog! Most importantly, this time gives you the opportunity to find yourself and reconnect with your loved ones, especially the ones you are quarantining with.
If you are considering divorce and are quarantined with your spouse and your children, this is undoubtedly a stressful time that may push you over the edge. If so, and once this global pandemic is behind us, you will likely be preparing for a new reality and the time you spend with your children will almost certainly change. Whether your children will primarily live with you, or, once divorced, your ex will be considered the “residential parent,” the reality is that you will all go from living under one roof, to spending designated time together.
This is not to say that the quality of your time together will radically change. In fact, divorced parents often report that their bond with their children is strengthened after the divorce when they begin enjoying time together outside of the presence of their former spouse. However, this forced coronavirus quarantine can be a great time to connect with your children before the divorce process and transition begins.
Coronavirus has forced many parents to embrace the challenge of homeschooling their children. While this, coupled with being quarantined and working remotely is surely nothing short of a challenge, you can use this time to delve deeper into your children and their favorite school subjects and interests. Designate time where everyone disconnects from their devices. Eat your meals together. If your children are older, it is likely impossible to get them to spend a weekend evening at home with you instead of out with their friends. Make the most of this forced bonding time. Embrace it.
Coronavirus is scary. While it is daunting to think of the future and the uncertainty over if and when our lives will return to normal, it is important to make the best of this unprecedented situation and focus on what we can control: spending quality time with the people we love and finding that bright spot in quarantine.
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